It is not the act of judging someone that defines their identity; it is the act of judging the self.
It is human nature to judge others, no matter how hard we try. Maybe it’s something as simple as your friend not listening well to you. The issue could be over something bigger, such as a person who has behaved selfishly or hurt us. It is not pleasant to be judged. When was the last time you were judged? Nobody wants to feel judged, and most of us doesn’twant to make others feel that way, either.
Learning to let go of judging people has been one of the biggest changes in my life. My greatest accomplishment has been letting go of my judgments about people and becoming a happier person.
Here are my strategies to help you stop judging other people.
Imagine yourself in their shoes for a moment
Imagining yourself as them will help you understand them better. How do they perceive the world around them? What’s their take on the world? Is there a way in which they view themselves? Is there anything they are experiencing? During this process, you need to be able to better understand how they think, how they see the world, and how they see things. Judging is counterproductive. Understanding is.
Take a moment to examine your own behavior.
As humans, we are often prone to judging others because of something we have done, or are doing, ourselves. If you find yourself complaining and judging someone about their mistake, the next time you do this, ask yourself this question: “Have I ever behaved badly for the sake of being able to complain at someone?”. Almost all of us have done that at some point in our lives.
Reframe the problem.
When you don’t like something someone does, perhaps you should consider it as a sign that they are simply approaching a problem in a different way than you would. There is always a possibility that they have a different schedule than you do. In this manner, you may be able to view their behavior in a more open-minded manner and be more accepting of it. Even though they might not be on your road, that does not mean that they deserve judgement.
Wishing them the best and make their Happiness your Happiness
You’re now more able to be happy for them if you’re coming from a place of understanding and empathy. Whenever you’re happy for someone, you’re not in a position to analyze their lives, analyze their decisions, or express your opinions. Simply be happy that they’re happy. It is a wonderful feeling to be able to do that. When you feel happy for someone, you have antidote to the feeling of judging them.
Don’t take it personal.
It is important to remember that when someone disagrees with us or makes our life difficult in some way, it usually does not come from them. They may be going through a difficult time or perhaps they are struggling. Don’t you think it’s worth a shot to give others the courtesy of the doubt? Give the person the benefit of the doubt. Nobody wakes up in the morning saying, “I’m going to act nasty today.” We do our best with what we’ve got. Find out what is good at its core. We all have a tendency to find something negative about others, but if we practice finding something positive about them, then we will almost always be able to do so.
keep in mind that the judgement of someone does not define who that person is.
But rather it defines who you are as an individual.Our relationships with others and ourselves improve when we don’t judge each other. I believe that this is a win-win situation for both interpersonal relationships and intrapersonal relationships on the whole. Be careful next time you’re tempted to judge. It is extremely important to practice these strategies, make them your own, and add them to your communication toolkit so they become as second nature to you as breathing.